I found the strangest way to get pregnant, and it lay deep within my subconscious mind.

Because when I started to wonder if there was more to getting pregnant than just my body or my stress…that maybe my fertility problems were caused by something deeper in my mind?

I wanted to know if Hypnotherapy could help?

And YES…it turned out it could…

Fertility Hypnotherapy helped me find emotional balance, calm my spiralling stress levels.

Fertility Hypnosis found a part of my unconscious mind that let me get pregnant. 

Hypnosis helped me get pregnant!

So I will share how the hypnosis worked. And how now, as a Clinical Hypnotherapist, I can help your fertility journey as well.

Since then I’ve been helping women all over the world who’ve felt their subconscious is holding them back.

Parts therapy works on the theory that when we experience a change or a struggle the subconscious mind adapts to help,  but these parts can only truely help if they stay up-to-date. And an outdated part can hinder, rather than help.

Outdated subconscious systems have been found still trying to:

• Protect after miscarriage
• Defend against generational complexities of motherhood
• Maintain a flourishing career above everything else
• Avoid feminine functions in a patriarchal world
• Protect the inner child
• AND SO MUCH MORE!

But how do you know if you should work with me?

Trust your instinct!

I will need to know how you uniquely feel.

And suffice to say, I am a happy hypnotherapist with a phone FULL of baby photos!!!!

Hypnosis for Fertility

I couldn’t get pregnant. And long story short. I found a Hypnotherapist who sounded stunned when I said I wanted hypnosis for fertility…She sounded like I was the first person who’d ever asked!

But I soon had a positive pregnancy test.

Surprised?

Absolutely!

Roll the years forward (and my second baby born) I left my demanding career to become a clinical hypnotherapist, and guess what?

Now I use hypnosis to help people like you, on their fertility journey.

So in this article we’ll explore how hypnotherapy helped me get pregnant, and how I can help you.

I couldn’t get pregnant

And I don’t need to tell you how painful that was, because I did it all:

The charts, recording my Basal Body Temperature (BBT) & Ovulation. I ‘looked after myself’ and gave up the jacuzzi at my gym. Had my bloods taken, my fallopian tubes checked. Ate all the right things fertility foods and avoided junk food, and fridge cold foods.  Persuaded my stubborn husband to have a sperm check. And waited months for a Clomid prescription. I won’t go on – I’m sure you know.

But with my first pregnancy ending in miscarriage. And feeling like I’d been hit by a wall of infertility caused by nothing in particular?

Diagnosed with noting more than unexplained fertility issues and no real answers?

IVF should have been the next logical step…

But worried by the thought of spiralling IVF bills.

And wanting to give myself the best chance of conceiving as the stress and grief pilled up.

I wondered if pregnancy would ever be possible when I felt so bad?

And I wondered if success lay in my mind?

Can your mind stop you getting pregnant?

And how can I get pregnant from my mind?

I’m not the only one who’s wondered this. And as a Hypnotherapist I work with a large number of both women and men who feel that their:

• anxiety or stress
• depression or low mood
• busy career
• self doubt
• lack of self care
• or even their past, is holding them back?

I’ve worked with people who’ve felt blocked by trauma, loss, termination, negative self beliefs, relationship problems, out of control stress response, anxiety about miscarriage and fear of pregnancy or birth (tocophobia).

And people who just feel their is a subconscious blocks to fertility that they just can’t describe.

So I looked for a Fertility Hypnotherapist

Because whether my hubby & I decided to go down the IVF route or not?

I wanted to know my mind was ready to conceive

Can infertility be caused by the unconscious mind?

Let’s be clear about this.

Infertility in most cases? Is caused by physical factors such as endometriosis, PCOS, low sperm count, or physical abnormalities in the male or female reproductive tracts.

But that said?

This still leaves about 25% of infertility cases in the UK categorised as unexplained infertility. And this is where working with an integrated therapist like me can be particularly helpful. (bsch.org.uk)

Because we no longer think of the body and mind as two separate states. We now know that they are connected. And each one effects the other. Positively. Negatively.

Stress in the mind leads to stress in the body.

And stress in the body leads to stress in the mind.

Stress causes changes within the body, including the production of the stress hormone prolactin which suppresses ovulation.

Rooney KL, The relationship between stress and infertility March 20 2018

If one more person says RELAX

ARGHHHH!

Relax and you’ll get pregnant, it drove me nuts.

But it does happen. It happens to my clients!

With pregnancy advice usually being as unhelpful as:

‘I joined a tennis team’

‘I went on holiday’

‘I forgave my husband’

But this is where hypnotherapy steps into its own. Because a long fertility journey causes worry and stress. It leads to negative forecasting and grief “I’ll never have a baby” or “I don’t deserve to have a baby” and all these negative thoughts lead to even more stress hormones. Even active thinking causes stress!!

So taking a holiday or joining a tennis team might be a drop in the ocean.

And you need something more tangible:

Like a good course of Hypnotherapy to get you where you need to be.

But let’s not be too mean about stress!

SOME STRESS IS HELPFUL.

Because a little bit of stress can motivate you, it can even excite you! Stress can get you moving forward and it get you signing up to Hypnotherapy.

But too much stress. Over a prolonged period of time, is not good for fertility.

So there I was

All my ducks in a row…except one

My Chinese Herbal Doctor said there was nothing stopping me from getting pregnant. He even said my body was ready for pregnancy. My nutrition was good, and with Chinese fertility herbs & acupuncture, my cycles were finally regular.

My menstruation had literally transformed from a baffling 17-45 day nightmare to a 28 day dream.

And my uterine lining was now thick & nutritious (apparently).

So why wasn’t I pregnant?

I was grieving for the baby I’d never have. Crying through every session with my herbalist. His receptionist had never made so much tea!

And I began to doubt whether I was meant to be a mother.

It got so bad, I was afraid of pregnancy bumps

I couldn’t bare to be around pregnant women. Not even from a distance. It became a phobia. And when you don’t want to see bumps – you see them everywhere. (So a trip to Ikea was the stuff of nightmares!)

And the day I mistook a man’s beer belly for a baby bump was the day I asked myself:

Could stress be making me infertile?

The Mind Body Connection

Stress affects the body. We all know that.

Fear in the short term helps you survive. It helps you escape danger! But fear that keeps going for a prolonged period of time can effect the immune system, digestive system, sleep, fertility and a whole lot more.

Living with infertility stress is like living with a permanent threat in the room.  And on a biological level, becoming pregnant is never a good survival tactic when the person who needs to survive is YOU.

Sometimes the fear can be obvious – the stress of infertility itself.

But sometimes it runs much deeper.

For me it was linked to my past loss. For some of my clients it’s been linked to a past trauma or a deeply ingrained sense of self.

But the wonderful thing about Hypnotherapy is you don’t need to know the problem to find the success.

As an artist once said. We are not painting the houses or the trees. We are painting the spaces between them.

These days Fertility Hypnotherapy is pretty standard. It’s up there on the checklist with hydration and good food. Zita West’s IVF Clinic saw to that!

But back in 2007 I did well to even find a Hypnotherapist.

It started with EFT

Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping) was not what I had in mind, I just wanted Hypno!

I wanted the doubt to stop. But EFT gave me a tool to use around pregnant women. It helped. But so can hypnotherapy by adjusting your noticing biases, increasing calm and using techniques like Swish.

But the next session was the game changer.

Parts Hypnotherapy was the key to my fertility

The moment my therapist used an advanced hypnotic technique from Parts Therapy something amazing happened!

As I drifted off into a deep & relaxed state my Hypnotherapist began to speak. She asked my subconscious about my fertility and to my surprise it had the answers and she told me to trust whatever came to my mind…

She asked if there was a part of my subconscious that was stopping me from getting pregnant? My thinking mind was saying hell no! But from somewhere else I heard a YES.

The next question. “Will that part come forward and talk to us?” Again it felt strange, so the “NO” I felt was a relief, but my hypnotherapist continued. She told this ‘Part’ that I wanted a baby, how sad I was and what a baby would mean to me.

And somehow I heard a YES.

I was scared and excitied all at once.

Hello to my fertility!

But then it got stranger. “What is this Part’s name?” And I knew the answer so she talked with this part, using ‘his’ name.

The answers make no sense to me. But my hypnotherapist thanked this part like she understood & then tried to strike a deal. This deal seemed to lift my subconscious block.

So this part agreed to stop doing it’s work for nine months so I could have a baby, then the part could do its job again and instantly I felt a weight lift.

In the coming days those feelings became more noticeable. I felt acceptance and ease, and I found HOPE.

Occasional doubts OFCOURSE. (I wasn’t deluded) But I was able to put them to one side. And I found a balance between optimism and doubt.

And I got Pregnant!

During my next fertility hypnotherapy session, my hypnotherapist took me threw a body scan. Not a mindful scan. A parts hypnotherapy scan! The scan took me through my body. Looking inside and describing how it felt and looked and if anything needed to change?

It was uneventful until we got to my uterus. I described it as warm and cosy. It was purple! Did it need any work, any improvement? I didn’t think so. But it felt uneasy. Because I had the feeling that I wasn’t alone.

I didn’t say anything. I’d been disappointed too many times before.

A couple of weeks later I realised that I could have told my Hypnotherapist. I wish I had. Because there had been someone in my uterus. Because almost straight after my Parts Hypnotherapy sessions I fell pregnant!

Telling my hypnotherapist the good news, she suggested that if I thought hypnotherapy for fertility was good…I should try hypnobirthing. She was right!

Parts Hypnotherapy changed me. It led to motherhood & a career in hypnotherapy helping other women conceive.

Deep in my client’s unconscious minds we’ve reduced stress levels, brought the happiness back into life & created beautiful change.

Conclusion

Hypnotherapy can’t guarantee you a pregnancy, which isn’t surprising if your IVF clinic can’t guarantee it either.

But Hypnotherapy can help.

It can help you feel better about your situation, and start living again.

IVF Hypnosis can help you positively prepare for your embryo transfer date.

Fertility Hypnotherapy can help you find hollistic calm.

Parts Hypnotherapy is the wonderful ‘woo woo’ to help with deep rooted subsconscious blocks and challenges.

And the light hypnotic state of Trauma Rewind Therapy is a fast and effective non-disclosure relief when you feel conception is blocked by a past traumatic event.

I know I am biased, but from where I’m sitting, I see hypnotherapy helping with all aspects of the fertility story, from depression and insomnia to deep rooted trauma and coping with unexplained infertility (which, by the way? I don’t buy that ‘infertility’ word, the game is only up when you decide it is – and I can help with that as well!)

So whatever you decide want to do?

It all starts with an online Initial Consultation.

So even if you know you need help? But you’re just not sure what?